The Etiquette of Contacting Swingers.

How to make contact with Swingers.

swinging lifestyle contact etiquette

These simple rules of etiquette are for those of you who are new to the swinging lifestyle and as a reminder to those who have been swinging a while.


Please respond to all e-mails you receive from respondents.

Most of them will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them.

It does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. To make it easy for you, we have even put a "Thanks, but no thanks" button on the messages page of our contact ads!

We both check our mail eagerly after we send every response, hoping that someone has written back to us.

If you are an escort advertising for business please advertise only in the "Paid For" section. If you are an escort advertising for play friends please use a different e-mail address from that used for your business. If we are made aware of people being asked for payment when responding to ads outside the escort area our admin team will move oe remove the ad the ad.


Always be polite.

Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad/profile.

Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.

If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their ad).

Keep the language clean, match your response to the ad. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.

If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.

We are bound to have missed a few points, if you come up with some more, please feel free to write and tell us at [email protected].